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Letter To You

I saw you rise above the doubts you tried to disguise. I saw the tears that you kept hidden within your eyes. I saw the potential that you thought you never had. I saw your love fade away after everything went bad. I saw your strength when weakness tried to cover you like rust. I saw you over work from dawn until dusk. But I must say after everything I have seen, that you must continue to press on until you reach your dreams.

”Attention Seeking: Is it good or bad?”

Is attention-seeking bad? Most of the time when someone posts something or does something we think “Oh, wow they are just doing it for attention.” And now it’s to the point where it’s considered something bad. It’s considered something you shouldn’t be doing. But, what if attention-seeking isn’t something bad? What if it could be something good? What brought me to this idea is the fact that many people in this world feel lonely. Many people feel as if they have no one to talk to. So they go out looking for “attention,” just so someone could notice them. Just so they don’t feel lonely anymore. So you are probably thinking to yourself “Well if attention-seeking could be considered a good thing, then why does everyone treat it like it’s something bad?” The answer to that question is this. It’s because those who usually judge people for attention-seeking are usually the ones who want attention as well. They are just too scared to go out looking for it. By attention-seeking people no longer feel lonely. They no longer feel like no one notices them and they feel complete because a hole within them has been filled with something they were missing and that was attention. So, when we encounter someone who seems to be attention-seeking let’s ask ourselves why might this person be doing this before we begin judging them. Because everyone has their battle to fight and we all fight them in different ways. Some just do that by attention-seeking.

Training of the mind

Have you ever told yourself that you’re going to focus on yourself? From now on you will eliminate distractions. So you get started and you are good for a week. Maybe a few days, a few hours, then boom! Something happens and all of a sudden you get distracted. All of a sudden you’re focused on something else rather than the goals you have set in place. You see, this happens to me all the time. For example, I will tell myself that I will go up to the post office today or I will do laundry today and sooner or later an excuse comes into place or I get distracted and forget what I said I was going to do in the first place. For a while, I use to beat myself up about it and be like man you need to grow up and learn to stay focus because all these little kids’ games you’re playing need to stop now. But honestly, they will never go away in a day, a week, a year. Hell, it could take years for them to finally go away. Now am I willing to wait a year to see if they will go away? The answer to that question is no. I will not wait for a year to see if they will go away because I don’t even know if I’ll be alive in a year. Not that I’m speaking death into existence or anything I’m just being real. Life is too short to wait to better yourself when you could be taking small steps now to do so. It all goes back to the training of the mind. You must train your mind to be able to focus on the goals that you have set into place and the only way to do that is by getting out there in the field and getting dirty. Yes, you’ll make mistakes doing so. Yes, you’ll fail sometimes. And yes, you’ll forget certain things in the first place. It’s what makes us human because we all fuck up sometimes. But, what will separate you from the rest is that you are willing to go out there and fail and make mistakes just to achieve the goals that are important to you. But it all lies on how you train your mind to do the things that you said you would do.

Broken Curses

Growing up money was something that wasn’t always there at times. Having to deal with three boys plus my stepdad, my mom had a lot on her plate so at times my brothers and I wanted to make it easier for her. She would always say “No, I’m fine just focus on school and stuff I’ll take care of everything else.” We always knew everything wasn’t fine, but my mom wanted to keep things away from us because she didn’t want us to worry about the things she was worried about. She didn’t want us to worry about bills, being kicked out, or transportation. She wanted us to focus on our dreams, goals, and not put them to the side because of the events that were happening around us. Now it’s easy to drop everything and worry about taking care of your family back home. But, it’s hard to go out there in the world and make something out of yourself so you can be able to take care of yourself as well as your family. I think it’s hard because while you are out there trying to make something out of yourself, your family may still be struggling but you feel like there isn’t anything that you can do to help since you are trying to find a way for yourself first before you find a way for them. So, then you stop what you’re doing and get a job close to home so you can give all that money to your family and not have anything left for yourself. Sometimes making the hard choice is exactly what your family needs from you. They need for you to go out there and better yourself and once you have made it out you can come back and show them how you did it. Because staying home to help the family isn’t bad at all, but how much help will you be if you are doing the same things they are doing to survive? This is why you must be different, you must find a way, and you must be willing to choose the hard choice over the easy one because that is how you break generational curses. And that is how you free your family from this survival game that we are all a part of. Because at the end of the day that’s all it is just a big game of survival that we are all playing. But instead of surviving, how about we start thriving. I’m sure then we could help our family help themselves in so many ways.